Thoughts and Advice

My favorite feeling in the world is to find out I was wrong about something I had always believed. Disillusionment is GOOD. It means that we were under a spell and now we are not. There is nothing more liberating. 

Inner-dialogue is natural, don't be afraid to listen to the voices in your head; that is your conscience trying to tell you something. It is okay to change your mind about stuff after you have thought about it. When new evidence is brought to light, thinking people sometimes change their minds. Don't let anyone ever make you feel bad for making an educated decision. 

I'm pro-life on war and capital punishment but I'm pro-choice on early detected pregnancy. To me, it's a gender equality thing. Plus I made a Venn-diagram once comparing my Mom's miscarried fetus and my cousin Ian who passed away when he was 15. They were not equal. Not even close. (I still have up pictures of Ian, but I don't have any of my mom's ultra sound.)

Grown adults, and not the government or our neighbors, should decide for themselves what the definitions are for love and family. You don't have to agree with homosexuality. I don't agree with religion and I don't like anal sex (it hurts), but I'm not clamoring to make laws against it. We're entitled to our opinions, but that doesn't mean they should all be made into laws.

The environment is worth saving. Great-great grandchildren and all that jazz. Torture is never okay. NEVER!!!

Fear is a favorite tool of our government and the masses are responsible for letting it work.

I love the Unitarian Universalist Church. I have decided I am a humanist and an atheist, who may be agnostic, because there is no proof that God doesn't exist. I don't really see the point of pondering the after-life too much anyways. I'm here now. It's a big job to focus on this life. Why bother with what happens next. You'll find out when you get there. Enjoy the journey and leave everything better than you found it. 

Flag burning should be legal. This is America. However, I can't seem to see the point in burning one.

Howard Stern, Larry Flint's porn and skinhead propaganda suck, but I would die for their right to speak out on their crazy views.

Patriotism annoys me. I love my home, but who doesn't? It's really quite silly. Much like the fact that my husband and I love the Chicago Bears because we were born in Illinois. If we were born somewhere else, the chances that we would be Bears fans are slim to none. Same thing with love for a country. The country you are born in, is just some lines in the sand that our rather immoral ancestors drew for reasons that we don't recall anymore. Much like drawing a line in the sandbox when you were 4.  George Bernard Shaw clarifies this when he says, "Patriotism is your conviction that this country is superior to all other countries because you were born in it."

In my meandering experience, I have found that most people lack integrity. Own yourself, own your behavior--every rotten thing you've ever done, every kindness and generosity you have ever bestowed on anyone or anything. Forgive yourself. My friend thinks it's insanity that I don't have to ask God for forgiveness. I look at her train wreck of an ego. Her self-esteem blows and she's a hot mess in general. I want to tell her that forgiving myself seems to be more effective than her method. I just don't have the heart.